5 Ways Your Wife’s Intrusive Thoughts Show Up During Rebuilding after infidelity When you’ve had an affair, your wife’s brain doesn’t just “move on” because you said sorry. She’s living with trauma, and that trauma shows up as intrusive thoughts, images, questions, flashbacks she can’t switch off. You might think she’s choosing to bring it up, but she’s not. Her mind is trying to protect her from ever being blindsided again. Here are 5 ways those intrusive thoughts often show up when you’re rebu